6. Train other leaders. Aim for majorities.
One of the things I've learned in my few years working on reforming a church is that congregation-wide agreement does not fall out of the sky on a silver platter. Reforming a church is a long process that requires a whole lot of conversations, a whole lot of persuasion---and a whole lot of votes. And at the end of the day, if you're going to facilitate reform, you need majorities that will vote for it.
Once you've been recognized as a leader in your church, the next step is to work on discipling other men who could also be recognized as leaders, and who, eventually, could join you in forming a majority of the leadership that wants to press for reform. As in so much of the Christian life, that's a long process of identifying men whom God has gifted for leadership, spending time with them, teaching them, and preparing them spiritually and otherwise for leadership.
When I came to Third Avenue, there were three men (including Aaron Menikoff who blogs here occasionally) on the board of deacons who were in favor of change. But there were three other men on the board who were not. When I was elected as a deacon, after several months of serving as a member in the church, all of us knew that my becoming a deacon made it 4-3 in favor of reform. And so we started reforming the church on a series of 4-3 votes.
Now one can argue that this was somehow unethical, and that it would have been better to try to persuade one (or even all three) of the other men to agree with the idea of reform, rather than just electing one more person to make a majority. I agree that would be great, but the reality is that unfortunately it's not always (or even usually) possible. Churches can be held hostage for years by a philosophy that the only way to reform is by changing the existing leadership's mind, rather than electing new leadership. I truly believe our church would have died---and fairly quickly, too---if those three deacons had not decided to create a majority on the deacon board and move on ahead.
But that all started---and it will start with you, too---with the foundational step of identifying and training up men who will join you in leadership. It bears being explicit, even though it ought to be obvious: Your goal isn't just votes. It's genuine, full-on, 1-Tim-3 leaders who long for God's glory and the church's good, and who recognize that church reform is a means---a good means, yes, but nothing finally more than a means---to both.
NOTE: I should give you a heads-up that there's going to be something of a change in this series from here on out. I'm primarily going to be talking from the perspective of someone who's already in leadership. I'm guessing, therefore, that insofar as these next few nuggets of experience are helpful to anyone at all, it's most likely to be for young pastors who are moving through a process of reform, or laymen who find themselves in a position to help lead such a process. That said, I know there are lots of people out there longing for reform in their churches who aren't recognized as leaders, and who may already have spent years serving and loving their churches as members. To you guys, God bless you. You're in the hardest, most thankless part of church reform. Keep praying for God to pour out his Spirit on your church, keep loving, keep serving, and keep aspiring. Faithfulness is a long hard road, but it's a good one, too.